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What is the truth behind Baha'i laws on homosexuality.

Dear LBGT Bahai friends I'm so glad this site exists because it's an outlet for views that are hard to broach in public. I would describe myself as a happy Two -Spirit Baha'i, content with the teachings of the Faith on sexuality and with himself and my Baha'i identity. i also hope this can go forward to be read by other LGBT/ Two -Spirit people.

In this posting I would like to raise the possibility of accepting the Baha'i laws on sexuality as they stand because maybe we don't understand them fully at the moment. I know some might not like me saying that but I ask for tolerance at least to hear me out on this matter.

  1. Firstly there is trust in God – He knows exactly what LGBT people go through and have gone through, but somewhere in these teachings there is an inner truth, some benefit to us LGBT people. The concept of ‘crisis and victory’ plays a part here – what seems like calamity may turn out to be something very enlightened in the end! We have to trust that whatever teachings God sends us, that they are sent down from One whose wisdom surpasses our own and they are in our best interests, as any loving God would act towards His children.

  2. Secondly there is the truth – any unbiased observer will see that men and women naturally complement each other. They are meant to go together like two pieces of a jigsaw. Furthermore only men and women can create life, so therefore they should naturally rear life too. Marriage, sexual intercourse, child bearing, child rearing are all natural processes of men and women interacting with each other.

  3. I'm not gay anymore; I've healed myself through the teachings of the Bahai Faith; I thank the Bahais for showing me my true nature, for being able to understand a deeper view of myself. I'm a new creation. To me ‘gay’ is the old world view of human sexuality. In my opinion what comes closer to the truth is the native american concept of the Two Spirit.

  4. The Bahai teachings offer a new world vision of human sexuality, a deeper and truer concept of life and love. Central to Baha'i teachings is the concept of the equality of men and women. In fact the universe is replete with these two forces. God himself has ‘male’ and ‘female’ attributes. The concept of the equality of men and women is central to my own understanding of myself and human sexuality.

  5. What is natural and healthy is a balance between male and female forces; this is why same sex relations are discouraged in Baha'i teachings. However as the Faith suggests we all have the ability to achieve complementary relationships, because we all within us have male and female attributes. We need to find the balance between male and female attributes within ourselves first , then find a partner who complements those attributes.

  6. The Bahai Faith cannot equate a relationship between two men or two women as the same as that between a woman and a man. They are not the same, that between women and men is divinely ordained and natural giving rise to offspring naturally and is evenly balanced between the natural forces of female and male. It is the blue print for relationships and life to which all of us can try to get as close to as possible.

  7. The issue of sexuality in the Bahai Faith in my opinion is to first allow your male and female forces within you find their natural balance, then find a partner who complements that balance. EVERY TRUE RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE A BALANCE OF MALE AND FEMALE FORCES BOTH WITHIN INDIVIDUALS AND BETWEEN THEM, that is why I think the Native Americans had it right – we're not gay, lesbian, trans or bi – we're TWO-SPIRITED people; we're blessed with being able to see from male and female perspectives – something that we should be revered for by the population, just like the Native Americans revered such people.

  8. Some may find what I'm saying off the wall but I think the Bahai teachings are far from regressive but are in fact potentially revolutionary and far sighted and ahead of their time. When i was ‘gay’ I used to find that gay society was very masculine orientated – and traces of softness or femininity were scorned. It was also very sexualised and could be impersonal. I don't know about lesbian culture. This is why I say I'm no longer gay – gay makes me feel trapped and limited. Two -Spirit frees me from all the limitations of the gay world. It truly feels like I was handicapped when I think back to my days as a gay man in the gay society. It's certainly not enough now!! I need to spread my wings – both male and female wings :) – and fly!!

  9. With this new thinking in mind I can interact in the Bahai world with no problem. I don't find it unwelcoming, discriminatory or judgmental. You are free to love who you wish. because all love is good. Of course discussing sexual relationships is taboo in Bahai society whatever your sexuality – that is private and between you and God. Men and women don't discuss their sexual preferences in Bahai public life, nor do they snog etc etc. The only indication that they do have sexual relations is in the fact they are married and have children, that's all! i do love someone and i am loved by someone, we complement each other well, and by following the rules of the Faith we find no problem at all in interacting with Bahais.

  10. Having children belongs only to men and women because that is a natural product of sexual intercourse and to have children you must therefore have marriage- so marriage is limited only to men and women as a natural institution for procreation. The Bahai Faith could not condone same sex marriage and child rearing and then claim to be telling the truth because it wouldn't be natural to same sex couples to create children as it would be to mixed sex. Two Spirit people must be instead helpers to the family and support them in their child raising , help mates if you like. An extra pair of help hands. We can certainly be a very useful force in society as we were in Native American society.

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