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not gay but no longer a believer

I am only 20 but started to realise the faith was not right for me when I was about 15. It seemed to me that there was such an obsession with sex, in particular homosexuality. I was constantly gossiped about as I was dating a good looking non bahai boy and rumors started to circulate that I was no longer saving sex for marriage. I got past all of these rumors as I put the gossiping down to culture more than religion.

When I was in my first year of uni (17) I became very good friends with a boy who came out to my friends and I, he was very worried about his parents reaction and I was very worried for him, when he told them they reacted in the most amazing and supportive way! I was so jealous, while I am not gay I can only imagine the reaction I would receive if I or one of my siblings was gay. I then learnt that a boy who was a few years older than me came out to his family who rejected him and still do to this day because of their beliefs. I just couldn't understand how a religion which is all about unity and oneness could rip a family apart...I have started to experience these feelings myself.

I am 20 and studying law, I know that as soon as I graduate my life will be all about my career and then raising a family, all I want to do is travel the world and experience different cultures with my boyfriend. My parents have straight out said that I am not allowed to do this as I will have the opportunity to have sex with my boyfriend.

WHY are bahai's so obsessed with pre-marital sex and sexual orientation, how can families put their faith before their children?

I know that this is a bit of rant but this is the first time I have been able to experience how I feel, my friends and boyfriend and therapist have all said that I should distance my self from my families beliefs and follow my own beliefs however no one understands how difficult it is to do this when my family has for generations suffered in Iran just so that I can live freely as a Bahai.

I feel that my parents will never be completely proud of me, no matter how successful I am and how much I serve humanity the fact that I am not a practicing bahai is a great point of sorrow for my parents and has led me to constantly feel guilty for who I am...


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